Emotional Purity I

Today we start a new topic under the “guys” series. A very important topic. If you’ve never considered the importance of emotional purity then listen up. As girls we are more naturally dependant than guys. However, we tend to throw that dependence in the wrong direction, namely, at guys. How have we become dependant? I can come up with many ways, but I’d just like to highlight this one: We become dependant on guys when we let our worth be founded in them.

Our emotions and feelings aught to be grounded upon the knowledge that we are created and loved by GOD… NOT that you have a string of guys who are head-over-heels-for-you. Is that your identity? Is that where your worth comes from? Sadly, many girls cling to that as their confidence. “I must be okay because so-and-so likes me…” But what if no one seems to appreciate you? Let me tell you what happens….if your confidence and security is founded on the recognition of guys and not on God then you’re in for trouble. Why? Simple fact: Girls go frantic if they are not loved. We were MADE with that inner NEED to be loved. However, if we search for it in the wrong places, desperation hits. Girls destroy themselves with eating disorders and other frenzied attempts to somehow be WORTH something if they feel they are unloved!

Well….good news…those feelings of despair are completely unnecessary. It is simply essential that you look in the right place. Don’t look to guys to satisfy your need for love. Look to God! He MADE you and LOVES you! But we all know that…right? Or is that assurance simply something you hold in your head and never let it reach your heart? Can you really say with confidence that it does not MATTER what guys think about you because the love of the LORD JESUS CHRIST is sufficient?
Ladies...STOP trying to fulfill your need for love in the acceptance of guys! God is all you need. He is your portion. He has enough love and more to fill your every longing. During these years as teenagers we are setting the pattern for the rest of our lives. Make it your habit to go to God FIRST. Don’t search after the praise of men….I can promise you, you will come up empty and be more desperate than before.

I know most of you reading this blog are strong Christian women. However, this is an area where we all struggle. If you do struggle with seeing your worth as only what guys make of you, remember: Christ loved you enough to die for you. He bought your soul. He ransomed you from eternal death. He granted you everlasting life. That’s a bit more than any guy I know can claim! Wouldn’t you rather have the everlasting, unending love of the King of the Universe? HE is worthy of your heart. Anchor your confidence on that rock!

God bless!
Bug

P.S. I apologize for slipping away from posting as often as I should…I hope you will find it in your worthy hearts to forgive me!