Modesty- On your wedding day (Which is a long way off...)

First, let me apologize profusely for not posting this on the day I was supposed to....Saturday. I hope you'll find it in your hearts to frogive me. :)
Okay, you probably took one look at the title, laughed, and then decided this post has absolutely nothing to do with you. If you're anywhere near my age you'll not be having any sort of a wedding for (hopefully) a few years or so, but, all the same, it's good to look at the topic of modesty on your wedding day. Most of you will probably be getting married (Lord willing), so file this topic away in your brain for whenever that time comes when you can actually use this information.

Modesty is important every day of your life...even your wedding day. For some of you this may be "no duh", but, sadly this is a big issue for many women. Strapless, backless, and dresses with plunging necklines are the "in" thing. Brides wear white dresses at their wedding because it is supposed to symbolize their purity. I don't know about you, but I'm not exactly given the picture of purity when I see a bride flounce down the aisle leaving practically nothing to the imagination. Many Christian women who have dressed modestly their whole lives throw that out the window when it comes to their wedding day. Allow me to cite on of my all time favorite blogs (besides this one of course... :P), Girltalk-

"1 Timothy 2:9-10 says that “Women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control.” These two qualities are to inform the way that I dress. Let’s check out these definitions.
Modesty--“Propriety: The avoidance of clothing and adornment that is extravagant, showy, and sexually enticing.”
Self Control--“Restraint, moderation for the purpose of purity.”
Maybe modesty is a word you don’t really want to think about. Perhaps you’ve had a vague idea that it means “ugly” or “out of style.” It may not have occurred to you that God has something to say about the clothes you wear.
As do all Scriptural commands, this command to modesty and self-control has broader implications than merely externals, what we wear. It goes right to the heart of WHY we wear what we wear. Our clothes, whether we realize it or not, say something. They give us away. They reveal the heart behind the clothes we wear. A modest heart comes before modest dress.
So what do your clothes say about your heart? What would we discover if we met your closet before we met you? Do your clothes reveal a heart of modesty and self-control? If you are not sure, check back tomorrow when we will take a look at what a modest heart is not."-Girltalk

Here are several reasons why we should choose to be modest on our wedding days-

• First, it's honoring to God and is in accordance with His commands.
• Second, it's honoring to your groom. You're saving yourself for His eyes alone.
• Thirdly, as their sister in Christ, do everything you can to keep your brothers in Christ from stumbling. Please think about the poor groomsmen and other men in attendence! I remember attending a wedding a while ago, and as the bride walked down the aisle (wearing a very revealing dress), I happened to glance at the groomsmen. Every one of them had their eyes fastened on the floor....ouch. Don't choose to be a temptation.

Even though "your day" is a long way off, it's never to early to be thinking about how you can have a wedding that honors God and those around you. A modest heart is pleasing to the Lord.

God bless!

<-Bug->

I am my brother's keeper

I love that phrase, I am my brother’s keeper. I have it pasted on my mirror as a reminder when I get dressed in the morning, to dress modestly to serve our brothers in Christ. Modesty is a huge issue in this day and age and finding modest clothes is VERY hard. I’m speaking from experience. It’s so hard finding feminine yet modest apparel, and I admit sometimes I’m too lazy to keep looking and settle for less modest clothes. I’ve come to realize that modesty is really an attitude. It’s about being unselfish. It’s about desiring to SERVE our brothers in Christ. It’s about correctly representing Christ to the world. Here’s what a young man said about those women who do dress modestly:
“To the girls who don’t follow the pattern of the world: thank you a million times over. You are following scripture’s commands and helping your brothers in the process. Despite all that godly men are doing to defeat the sin of lust, they still need help, and they need you to provide it.”

I have a funny yet somewhat sad story to tell you. When my mom was growing up, she was blessed with an amazing youth pastor at her church. Once, he was talking with a young woman in the youth group who was dressed inappropriately. The pastor put his hand over his eyes before he continued his conversation with her. Can you imagine how mortifying it must have been for the girl?? Yet how often do we make men want to cover their eyes so they are not tempted? Do you want godly young men to flee from your presence? I would think not!

It’s hard to know what the balance is between cute and modest clothing. Ask your mom. Or better, if you’re brave, ask your dad or your brothers if what you are wearing is too revealing, short, tight, etc.

In addition, modesty goes beyond the clothing you wear. It’s also portrayed in the way you act and the things you say. “The way you dress, the way you act, and the way you talk have everything to do with your walk with the Lord because your outward appearance is a reflection of the inward state of your heart.” Is your appearance reflecting a quite heart? A meek heart? A heart that is seeking to glorify God? A servant’s heart?

I suggest you pray long and hard over this subject. You will never be perfect at it, but with God’s help you can help your brothers. And they will thank you for it! Paste the phrase “I am my brother’s keeper” on your mirror in the bathroom or in your bedroom to remind you of the responsibility you have!

Many blessings,
~becca~

Modesty

So, we are now starting a new series titled...yeh, you guessed it! MODESTY! ;) Well, this should be exciting, and we hope to get ALOT of feedback about what YOU feel about it, so make SURE to comment! :) So, I thought I'd start us off today with my favest verse:

I Peter 3:3-4~
"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."

Okay, so it doesn't have a TON to do with modesty, I guess more the principal of how much more important spiritual beauty is worth, compared to physical beauty! I get wrapped up in physical beauty SO often, it's something most girls have to work on I think. "Modesty" is such an unheard of topic these days. It seems most Christians are the only ones who think about it, nevermind know what it means! It's scary to think what girls our age will be wearing in three years...only three years. I shudder to think. Although it's hardly ever blatantly mentioned in the Bible, modesty is very important for all young ladies. So, some "food for thought" as we start the the series, remember to share what you feel too, we'd LOVE to hear it!

Fear not,
<>Byrde<>