Today we start a new topic under the “guys” series. A very important topic. If you’ve never considered the importance of emotional purity then listen up. As girls we are more naturally dependant than guys. However, we tend to throw that dependence in the wrong direction, namely, at guys. How have we become dependant? I can come up with many ways, but I’d just like to highlight this one: We become dependant on guys when we let our worth be founded in them.
Our emotions and feelings aught to be grounded upon the knowledge that we are created and loved by GOD… NOT that you have a string of guys who are head-over-heels-for-you. Is that your identity? Is that where your worth comes from? Sadly, many girls cling to that as their confidence. “I must be okay because so-and-so likes me…” But what if no one seems to appreciate you? Let me tell you what happens….if your confidence and security is founded on the recognition of guys and not on God then you’re in for trouble. Why? Simple fact: Girls go frantic if they are not loved. We were MADE with that inner NEED to be loved. However, if we search for it in the wrong places, desperation hits. Girls destroy themselves with eating disorders and other frenzied attempts to somehow be WORTH something if they feel they are unloved!
Well….good news…those feelings of despair are completely unnecessary. It is simply essential that you look in the right place. Don’t look to guys to satisfy your need for love. Look to God! He MADE you and LOVES you! But we all know that…right? Or is that assurance simply something you hold in your head and never let it reach your heart? Can you really say with confidence that it does not MATTER what guys think about you because the love of the LORD JESUS CHRIST is sufficient?
Ladies...STOP trying to fulfill your need for love in the acceptance of guys! God is all you need. He is your portion. He has enough love and more to fill your every longing. During these years as teenagers we are setting the pattern for the rest of our lives. Make it your habit to go to God FIRST. Don’t search after the praise of men….I can promise you, you will come up empty and be more desperate than before.
I know most of you reading this blog are strong Christian women. However, this is an area where we all struggle. If you do struggle with seeing your worth as only what guys make of you, remember: Christ loved you enough to die for you. He bought your soul. He ransomed you from eternal death. He granted you everlasting life. That’s a bit more than any guy I know can claim! Wouldn’t you rather have the everlasting, unending love of the King of the Universe? HE is worthy of your heart. Anchor your confidence on that rock!
God bless!
Bug
P.S. I apologize for slipping away from posting as often as I should…I hope you will find it in your worthy hearts to forgive me!
Showing posts with label Guys. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Guys. Show all posts
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Monday, May 07, 2007
Singleness: Respect
Respecting guys. Hmmmm...I guess I'm getting tired of hearing: "MEN!" or "Guys - they're such idiots!" Seriously, when did woman ever get elevated above men? Often in Junior High guys really DO seem like jerks. But aren't we also? Maturity is the same for girls as it is for guys. However, most scholars say girls mature faster, that doesn't mean that girls mature FURTHER, just FASTER. If they annoy you, give 'em time. They'll grow out of it. If not, then you know they aren't worth spending time with. Girls have their problems too, if a guy annoys you, take a second to look at yourself and realize that you do stuff that he doesn't like too! Maybe he thinks you talk too much, or have this super annoying giggle, or always agree with people. Girls are made to compliment guys, let's not get all wrapped up in somehow thinking we are better. We need to respect guys!
Just some things to think about...
Byrde
Just some things to think about...
Byrde
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Singleness III
Contentment -
This post really could apply to all areas of life, but I think it is a major part of being single! It is so hard to always be content. We strive every day to be joyful in our circumstances, and not pout, whine, or hold a pity party for ourselves. Let’s look at what the Bible has to say about being content.
Philippians 4:11-13 says, “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.”
So, what is the secret that Paul has found? I believe the answer lies in the passage above.
Philippians 4:4-7 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always, I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Consider also the last sentence of the previous verse I quoted: I can do everything through Him who gives me strength. What’s the secret? Remembering that the Lord is near, He is our sympathetic high priest, and we can rely on Him to give us strength through every circumstance. So why be discontent? Have you not been given everything through Christ? Discontentment is a very serious issue, and one of the biggest things I struggle with. Discontentment is really saying this to God:
My plans are better then Yours.
I want to do things my way.
I’m sick of waiting for the plans You have for my life, I want them now.
I do not trust that You have a better plan for me then I could ever come up with.
I am forgetting that RIGHT NOW is part of Your plan for me.
I want to hurry up, skip this season and get on with life. God, speed up. I want You to do things in MY time, not Yours.
I’m forgetting to look at how I can grow NOW, bless others NOW, mature NOW, be close to You NOW, but I want something else.
In this case, something else is a husband. A boyfriend. A companion. Those who are discontent in this area are looking RIGHT PAST our Savior, the Lover of our Soul, the Treasure of the universe, and saying He is not enough. He isn’t enough to satisfy our souls. He isn’t enough to fill us with contentment and joy.
Let me balance this out a little so you do not think I am against marriage or anything! Marriage is God’s beautiful design. Don’t get me wrong. I want to be married someday. I want to have a husband and a wheelbarrow full of kids. But, I am way too young. I’m not even out of highschool, let alone mature enough to make a wise choice about marriage or be ready to have a family. It is good to have goals in life, to have dreams, and aspirations. But I caution you, do not be too focused on tomorrow that you lose sight of today. TODAY is the day God has given you. You may not get tomorrow. You may die before you even finish reading this post. Morbid, but true. You are never guaranteed another breath. Imagine you die, go to heaven, and God says, “What did you do for Me on earth?” What will be your response? Will you only be able to say, “I dreamed about all the plans You may have for me, Lord.” Will you say, “God, I saw why you had me where You had me, the timing was Yours, and I used it to glorify You. I didn’t worry about the future, but I remembered that You still sit on the throne and that whatever I go through, I can do all things through You, who strengthens me.” Now, you may not know why God has you where you are right now, but you don’t need to know all His plans to give Him the glory, or to make the best use of your time.
So, I urge you, dear sisters in Christ, stop worrying. Stop being discontent. Praise God in your circumstances. Remember that CONTENTMENT IS THE ESSENCE OF SPIRITUAL BEAUTY!!! There is nothing more beautiful or more glorifying to our Lord and Savior, then a heart that is complete in Him. A soul that alone desires Jesus as our heavenly Treasure. Don’t forget your Treasure! Don’t scorn it and say it isn’t enough.
Blessings,
~Gretchen~
This post really could apply to all areas of life, but I think it is a major part of being single! It is so hard to always be content. We strive every day to be joyful in our circumstances, and not pout, whine, or hold a pity party for ourselves. Let’s look at what the Bible has to say about being content.
Philippians 4:11-13 says, “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.”
So, what is the secret that Paul has found? I believe the answer lies in the passage above.
Philippians 4:4-7 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always, I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Consider also the last sentence of the previous verse I quoted: I can do everything through Him who gives me strength. What’s the secret? Remembering that the Lord is near, He is our sympathetic high priest, and we can rely on Him to give us strength through every circumstance. So why be discontent? Have you not been given everything through Christ? Discontentment is a very serious issue, and one of the biggest things I struggle with. Discontentment is really saying this to God:
My plans are better then Yours.
I want to do things my way.
I’m sick of waiting for the plans You have for my life, I want them now.
I do not trust that You have a better plan for me then I could ever come up with.
I am forgetting that RIGHT NOW is part of Your plan for me.
I want to hurry up, skip this season and get on with life. God, speed up. I want You to do things in MY time, not Yours.
I’m forgetting to look at how I can grow NOW, bless others NOW, mature NOW, be close to You NOW, but I want something else.
In this case, something else is a husband. A boyfriend. A companion. Those who are discontent in this area are looking RIGHT PAST our Savior, the Lover of our Soul, the Treasure of the universe, and saying He is not enough. He isn’t enough to satisfy our souls. He isn’t enough to fill us with contentment and joy.
Let me balance this out a little so you do not think I am against marriage or anything! Marriage is God’s beautiful design. Don’t get me wrong. I want to be married someday. I want to have a husband and a wheelbarrow full of kids. But, I am way too young. I’m not even out of highschool, let alone mature enough to make a wise choice about marriage or be ready to have a family. It is good to have goals in life, to have dreams, and aspirations. But I caution you, do not be too focused on tomorrow that you lose sight of today. TODAY is the day God has given you. You may not get tomorrow. You may die before you even finish reading this post. Morbid, but true. You are never guaranteed another breath. Imagine you die, go to heaven, and God says, “What did you do for Me on earth?” What will be your response? Will you only be able to say, “I dreamed about all the plans You may have for me, Lord.” Will you say, “God, I saw why you had me where You had me, the timing was Yours, and I used it to glorify You. I didn’t worry about the future, but I remembered that You still sit on the throne and that whatever I go through, I can do all things through You, who strengthens me.” Now, you may not know why God has you where you are right now, but you don’t need to know all His plans to give Him the glory, or to make the best use of your time.
So, I urge you, dear sisters in Christ, stop worrying. Stop being discontent. Praise God in your circumstances. Remember that CONTENTMENT IS THE ESSENCE OF SPIRITUAL BEAUTY!!! There is nothing more beautiful or more glorifying to our Lord and Savior, then a heart that is complete in Him. A soul that alone desires Jesus as our heavenly Treasure. Don’t forget your Treasure! Don’t scorn it and say it isn’t enough.
Blessings,
~Gretchen~
Saturday, February 24, 2007
Singleness II
The Curse of Singleness Part II
While you might have laughed at the absurdity of the title, there are many Christian girls who do view singleness as a curse. Unfortunately, most of us single gals fall into this class. Admit it…how many of you girls have ever thought that you would just love to get this part of your life over, get married, have kids and live happily ever after. Yup. I thought so. Most of you have wished that. If you haven’t already…you will.
Thankfully, God did not stick the singleness season into your life for no reason. As with all things, God has the perfect plan. These years of our lives are THE MOST important. Why? Because they shape us into the women that we will be for the REST of our lives. We have these years to be taught and trained and whipped into the women that will make godly wives and mothers in the later years. How many of you have been somewhere in public and seen a young couple or family and thought that you would want to be just like that 10+ years down the road. We all have dreams or desires for the future and singleness is our training ground to work towards those dreams.
There are several key areas that we need to focus on as godly ladies so we can be women that honor God in the future.
1) Realize that God has a plan for you. Your times are in HIS hands. Every minute of your life has been planned down to the slightest detail. Please don’t waste your life wondering when Prince Charming will show. If he does come, he will come in God’s timing…..not yours.
2) Make God your center. God is training your for His work….Strive to become the woman that He desires you to be. Do you have a picture of the wife/mother you want to be? Take steps to become that….You don’t suddenly become patient, loving or compassionate when you get married….That is only the product of long years that you’ve shed blood, sweat and tears. It’s better to learn that BEFORE you get married…not after.
3) Don’t give your heart away to another. Your affections belongs to your future husband…anyone else who takes it is merely a thief. Here’s a good piece of advice: Treat EVERY man as ANOTHER woman’s husband. Would you flirt with another girl’s husband? Ya, I know….the thought is repulsive, but you get my point. 99% of the guys out there will be married to other women….Therefore, keep them out of heart and mind.
Gals….there is so much more I could say about singleness. If there is one thing that I want you to take away from this is that singleness is essentially your boot camp…Training you to become a godly woman. Make God the center of your heart….Wait patiently for His timing…And keep guys at arm’s length while you fall in love with CHRIST.
(Bug)
While you might have laughed at the absurdity of the title, there are many Christian girls who do view singleness as a curse. Unfortunately, most of us single gals fall into this class. Admit it…how many of you girls have ever thought that you would just love to get this part of your life over, get married, have kids and live happily ever after. Yup. I thought so. Most of you have wished that. If you haven’t already…you will.
Thankfully, God did not stick the singleness season into your life for no reason. As with all things, God has the perfect plan. These years of our lives are THE MOST important. Why? Because they shape us into the women that we will be for the REST of our lives. We have these years to be taught and trained and whipped into the women that will make godly wives and mothers in the later years. How many of you have been somewhere in public and seen a young couple or family and thought that you would want to be just like that 10+ years down the road. We all have dreams or desires for the future and singleness is our training ground to work towards those dreams.
There are several key areas that we need to focus on as godly ladies so we can be women that honor God in the future.
1) Realize that God has a plan for you. Your times are in HIS hands. Every minute of your life has been planned down to the slightest detail. Please don’t waste your life wondering when Prince Charming will show. If he does come, he will come in God’s timing…..not yours.
2) Make God your center. God is training your for His work….Strive to become the woman that He desires you to be. Do you have a picture of the wife/mother you want to be? Take steps to become that….You don’t suddenly become patient, loving or compassionate when you get married….That is only the product of long years that you’ve shed blood, sweat and tears. It’s better to learn that BEFORE you get married…not after.
3) Don’t give your heart away to another. Your affections belongs to your future husband…anyone else who takes it is merely a thief. Here’s a good piece of advice: Treat EVERY man as ANOTHER woman’s husband. Would you flirt with another girl’s husband? Ya, I know….the thought is repulsive, but you get my point. 99% of the guys out there will be married to other women….Therefore, keep them out of heart and mind.
Gals….there is so much more I could say about singleness. If there is one thing that I want you to take away from this is that singleness is essentially your boot camp…Training you to become a godly woman. Make God the center of your heart….Wait patiently for His timing…And keep guys at arm’s length while you fall in love with CHRIST.
(Bug)
Friday, January 26, 2007
Singleness
To start off our amazing series I'm going to begin at...singleness...the very best place to start. Its where we all start. Probably a place that most of us are still at. Probably the hardest part of female teens is keeping a healthy focus. It's what we were all intended for. Living a life of praise, reflecting our Lord...
I Corinthians 7:34 says "An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit."
Is that not the coolest verse EVER?! I'm lovin' it! Our good friend Bug just showed me that...until then I had never heard it. ha ha! Don't yah love that! :) So, I'm just gonna focus on one aspect of our "single" lives right now. What it should look like. Bug and Becca will hopefully go into more detail there. :)
Well, to begin with...everyone, guy or girl is built with a hole inside them. Yeh, a void. A huge emptiness, a longing. We all don't realize it, we don't understand what this feeling of unworth is, this feeling of unbelonging. Some of us pretend we don't have it, sometimes we disguise it. It's that longing to be loved, cherished, cared about, and deeply and sincerely treasured. We try to fill this hole by anything we can...acceptance, possessions, friends, satisfaction....and love. However, there is only one COMPLETE answer...something that totally fills that hole. Its the only existing puzzle piece that fits. We search everywhere else for the puzzle piece, many of us know what it is. I know you know it! Yup, Jesus Christ...the lover of my soul...your soul! We search for this puzzle piece...it's something we are ALL built to accent perfectly, or better yet. He accents US perfectly. However, we fail to see that. As girls, we look to boyfriends, even Dads to fill this gap. Since we were little we all dreamed of being princesses...growing up someday and marrying the perfect man of our dreams. This permeates our later childhood and teen years as we look to others for this unconditional love. Many don't realize they can ONLY find it in one place, and therefore give up everything searching in places where it will never exist. Heartbreak after Heartbreak they move on...broken. bruised. smashed. torn. crushed. God is the only one who can love us that way, and when we believe that, EVERYTHING changes. He fills that void perfectly. He loves us like no one can....he understands our problems not even the greatest psychiatrist or wisest man on the world could understand, nevermind solve. He heals the wounds others inflict on us. He heals the wounds we inflict on ourselves. TV, Music, Movies, Family, Friends, Magazines ALL tell us we need a boyfriend. If we don't know someone likes us, we feel uncomplete. Unloved, and not worth anything. I know so many times I don't even think of Christ as the sole lover of my heart, he holds the keys, he understands, he loves passionately. He's like no other. Yet, we search for anything else...He seems so distant...so far away, so unattainable. He's near, and He's waiting. Singleness...is complete in Christ. So, our task on hand is to be concerened about the Lord, and becoming more like him. As we wait for our future husband our focus should be completely centered on Him. "Let our eyes be fixed on Him, the author and perfecter of our faith!" He is our focus. As a young woman of God I am devoted to him at this point of my life. That's the only thing. Let's let that be our goals sisters!
I Corinthians 7:34 says "An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit."
Is that not the coolest verse EVER?! I'm lovin' it! Our good friend Bug just showed me that...until then I had never heard it. ha ha! Don't yah love that! :) So, I'm just gonna focus on one aspect of our "single" lives right now. What it should look like. Bug and Becca will hopefully go into more detail there. :)
Well, to begin with...everyone, guy or girl is built with a hole inside them. Yeh, a void. A huge emptiness, a longing. We all don't realize it, we don't understand what this feeling of unworth is, this feeling of unbelonging. Some of us pretend we don't have it, sometimes we disguise it. It's that longing to be loved, cherished, cared about, and deeply and sincerely treasured. We try to fill this hole by anything we can...acceptance, possessions, friends, satisfaction....and love. However, there is only one COMPLETE answer...something that totally fills that hole. Its the only existing puzzle piece that fits. We search everywhere else for the puzzle piece, many of us know what it is. I know you know it! Yup, Jesus Christ...the lover of my soul...your soul! We search for this puzzle piece...it's something we are ALL built to accent perfectly, or better yet. He accents US perfectly. However, we fail to see that. As girls, we look to boyfriends, even Dads to fill this gap. Since we were little we all dreamed of being princesses...growing up someday and marrying the perfect man of our dreams. This permeates our later childhood and teen years as we look to others for this unconditional love. Many don't realize they can ONLY find it in one place, and therefore give up everything searching in places where it will never exist. Heartbreak after Heartbreak they move on...broken. bruised. smashed. torn. crushed. God is the only one who can love us that way, and when we believe that, EVERYTHING changes. He fills that void perfectly. He loves us like no one can....he understands our problems not even the greatest psychiatrist or wisest man on the world could understand, nevermind solve. He heals the wounds others inflict on us. He heals the wounds we inflict on ourselves. TV, Music, Movies, Family, Friends, Magazines ALL tell us we need a boyfriend. If we don't know someone likes us, we feel uncomplete. Unloved, and not worth anything. I know so many times I don't even think of Christ as the sole lover of my heart, he holds the keys, he understands, he loves passionately. He's like no other. Yet, we search for anything else...He seems so distant...so far away, so unattainable. He's near, and He's waiting. Singleness...is complete in Christ. So, our task on hand is to be concerened about the Lord, and becoming more like him. As we wait for our future husband our focus should be completely centered on Him. "Let our eyes be fixed on Him, the author and perfecter of our faith!" He is our focus. As a young woman of God I am devoted to him at this point of my life. That's the only thing. Let's let that be our goals sisters!
In Christ,
Byrde
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
A Smashing New Series
Today we are going to kick off our new series! For lack of a better title, we are going to call the series “Guys!" We will be discussing young ladies proper attitude towards young men, how to respect them, and act around them. I’m sure sometime through this series, modesty will come up again as the Rebelution Blog has been doing a massive survey of the subject and we may post some of the results as it pertains to what we are discussing. Also, we will talk about singleness and the blessing that it is, and how we shouldn’t be discontent in our singleness. Some other topics that will be talked about: what to look for in a man and keeping emotional purity. These are tough subjects, but we feel that it is important to have a Biblical view about these issues!
Oh, one other thing, Bug and I haven’t been able to access the new blog, so Byrde has been doing all of the posting for us. The amount of post may be somewhat smaller until we can figure out what’s bugging our computer!
Well, I hope you will enjoy the new series!
Many blessings,
~Becca~
Oh, one other thing, Bug and I haven’t been able to access the new blog, so Byrde has been doing all of the posting for us. The amount of post may be somewhat smaller until we can figure out what’s bugging our computer!
Well, I hope you will enjoy the new series!
Many blessings,
~Becca~
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